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Who Moved Her Voice?



I know this dear person who, while growing up , was very shy.  In fact, I can say that she is an introvert. 

 But now, If you meet Rida , you would never believe any of what I just said about her. 

I recently attended a workshop with her and witnessed a completely different Rida. She literally threw herself into it. She was visible; interacted with people and contributing.    

From  the various feedbacks,  it seemed Rida made  a big impression on the minds of the attendees and her facilitators. I think so too. 

Knowing Rida, I could not help but marvel at this new personality emerging out of her. Maybe, I should have even tagged this piece “How Rida  got her voice”. 


Yours truly decided to probe in to this. Rida disclosed that she actually loved seminars and workshops all this while.  But she wasn't able to share her opinions because she was very shy.  She also believed that she missed out on  lots of opportunities,because she could not  socialise. 

 So what did she do about it? She  put herself situations where she had to contribute. It was terrible at first. In her own words, she said "It would seem like my heart would jump out of my mouth. I was so petrified.
Still, I kept reading about public speaking and jumped at every opportunity to practice it". I also read wide on interpersonal skills. "

The big break came when she joined a creative non-profit organisation. There, she  met a couple of friends who encouraged her creativity and gave her opportunities to share her ideas on big platforms.

With all these was going on, a strong personality was being developed. Rida can  now talk /socialize so well that noone  will believe she was ever shy. Was  she  ever  an introvert? Or she was just waiting to find her  own voice?  Which ever way you want to see it, I think Rida's story,  is one full of inspiration. I hope it inspires to you to rise to your full potential. 

Cheers!! 

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My Birthday Story

Only God knows what got into me to write this. Some say when you get intellectually high, creativity is born. I definitely assure you, that no drugs were involved it was pure joy.

On my birthday, pops woke me up with a phone call, and doused me and hubs with loads of prayers.
Thank God for praying parents. If you have one you have got a treasure. If you haven't got one, become one and be a treasure to your children . Popsi of life! I love ya!!! Guess you can't say that to African parents. Just skip the first part and say "I love you", and don't forget to say it in English. It kinda sounds awkward in Yoruba or is it just me. lol

Moving on...you would think with early morning blessings, I would start out on the right foot. But Nah! I didn't. My evil side kinda poped up, I got into trouble with someone very dear to me. Definitely not hubs, but someone very awesome. Thankfully,we made up. Our short lived clash got me thinking on how birthdays should be celebrated.
Should it be a time of reflection or time of gyration and celebration.


With my serious face, I stated pondering over my life. Good lord! I am getting older.






I don't have wrinkles yet, but I am not sixteen again like last year....erm , don't look shocked I wasn't actually sixteen last year. Lolz
But, I will surely start having wrinkles someday and won't really be a pretty face again. At least, think I am a pretty face. ( Chuckles)
I thought to myself , when I am leaving this world I want to be assured that I have known the truth and lived the truth. I don't want to regret not doing the right things or making the right decisions. It would be a shame if I never learnt from my mistakes ,never made brave decisions because of cowardice.
I want to have lived the life and left no stone unturned. I don't mean doing drugs, booze, stripping poles, doing all sorts of crazy stuffs. I simply mean I want have fulfilled before hitching the death ride. I want to be like paul, who said "I have fought a food fight."
That's how I want to end. And thus, my reflections showed me things I need to do and not do. And also the things I need to keep doing, so I can end well
Man's days are fleeting and it soon passes away. Like flower that blossoms and withers, so are the days of our life. It's so easy to be carried away with everything going on and lose sight of God and our purpose.


Ok! so you would think I reflected all through the day. Nah! I didn't not. Hubs, been the one with pleasant surprises popped up his surprise and I was like yaay me! Its time to giddy up. So we partied in our own way . oh dear! I even abandoned my diet. No thanks to those sumptuous meals, I now have some extra pounds to deal with. Not to worry Sergeant Green tea to the rescue!






Ahh! This post is getting do long and I am getting tired. Why don't I have voice typing app ? Even Google voice app seem to understand our English at all. Nawa oh! If this app can't understand Lagos accent, then how will it understand pidgin? Smmh*
Somebody please pass the word to app developers. I was thinking by now the app should be able to understand Ijebu and also type it.lolz
I guess I'll be rounding up now (News flash).
It will be terrible if I end this post without acknowledging those who sent me heartfelt wishes. My family, My sweet in-laws ( they were really sweet), My church fam ( most especially my fellow teachers ). Old school mates, blogger friends,Facebook friends, longtime friends. Its so good to have awesome friends around you. I really felt like a princess even though my father is like 10th in line to throne in my village. Lwkmd.
Thank you all.





One more thought; this post was scheduled for my birthday, why wait till today before posting? Should I continue? Kai! you too like gist.
Peace people!

THE FEMELLE FACTOR

Two weeks ago or was it three? Can't really say. Anyways, some weeks ago I got myself watching the series "Scandal' by chance. Though I would say It's not really my kind of series. Reasons? It had some pretty explicit sex scenes, which made me turn my face away or ask it to be forwarded, when those steamy scenes come on. Hey! Don't blame me, I am a Jesus groupie. I have got to flee from all appearances of evil.



OK, so back to the point. From the little I watched, the series revolved around a woman with the name "Olivia pope". She was what you could call a fixer. Hahaa! Now you are interested, let get the movie started, Gengen! Lol
Don't mind me joor, I watched too much of E! Channel in my university days. In fact, my sister and I started to gesture like the celebs, do their kind of hairstyles and even posed for pics like celebs! We were serious Hollywood wannabes. My sister who was in med school at that time, even entertained the idea of dropping medicine for acting! Thankfully, that's past us now. But really if you have have an opening, most especially in Hollywood I would be willing to take it. Who ever said I can't diversify. Just don't call me for a sex scene or strip tease shots.Lol





Now that you are laughing off your head ,shall we proceed. Jeez! where did that word come from "laughing off your head". Seriously, people don't become headless because you are enjoying a good laugh.
Is this suppose to be a comedy post or what? I guess I should have just called it " Time to laugh".



Moving on, like I said earlier, Olivia was a fixer, she fixed tough issues and made problems go away. And she worked with the president. (Bigz Girls)
Olivia went from having an affair with the Presido to dating one of his ( president's ) personal aid named Jake. A lot of things happened and Olivia's boyfriend got framed by Olivia's father for the murder of President junior(The president's son). Hmm,wahala dey o!
Oga president dealt with Jake no be small.One would think the president
did this because Jake was accused of murdering his son. But the underlining truth was that Oga presido was so mad that Mr Jake was sleeping with Olivia. Chaii! woman palava.





Afterwards, the president was to deliver Jake to Olivia's father for further prosecution (Olivia's father intended to kill Jake unknown to the president. Remember, he was the one who framed Jake initially).
Olivia got to know about her father's plan and she went to the President to request that Jake shouldn't be handed over to her father.
Then the shocker happened. As they argued back and forth,Olivia threatened that if he handed Jake over to her father, then he should forget about getting back together with her.
Then Oga at the top (Mr President) asked Olivia if she would go back to dating him if he didn't release Jake to her father. Of course, madam Olivia agreed. Wow!!! All hail the power of woman, or should I say it was booty power/ bottom power.

At that point, It dawned on me that women held so much power to influence and shape a number of events.

The world has had its share of influential women who shook the world greatly. Some for good and some for bad.
We have seen manipulative women as well awesome women in homes, offices and government who affected their spheres positively and negatively.
Whether you admit it or not, the way a family turns out is 80 percent based on the mother's influence.
A bad woman can tear brothers apart and good woman can make them bond closer.
One of my hubby favorite saying goes thus " Educate a man, you educate one. Educate a woman and you educate a community."


Women are caregivers, helpers, advisors , nurturers,multi-taskers and the list goes on. But the question is how are women using those abilities? And these abilities are what I call the femelle factor. Maybe I should make the question a bit more direct. How am I using my femelle factor? How are you using your femelle factor?
Do you use it to inspire or depress, do you use it to help or manipulate, do you use it for the welfare of others or for your selfish reasons.

Every word a woman speaks, every action she undertakes, every decision she makes goes out to influence a generation

How are you using your femelle factor.

Nb: Femelle means Female in French

WHAT HAS "BAD" GOT TO DO WITH IT?

I remember singing Tina Turner's "what love gat to do with it" in my early years. I would shake my head and move my body as I sang. And when I was among my friends, I would feel so cool singing the song. Don't blame me, I think that was the only hip song that I knew so well. Lol.





The cliché BAD has gone so viral today or should I say global. We hear phrases like BAD girl , BAD boy , BAD ride or sometimes wicked ride. Oops!
Well, if you are not familiar with hip hop culture you wouldn't understand what it means. Oldies move over. The truth is bad is usually used in the hip culture to describe cool things. Twisted, huh?I know, I feel the same way. A bad girl/ boy means a cool/ happening guy/ babe. A bad/ wicked ride means a very cool car. Hmmm,
I can't help but remember a scene from watching the series "Suite life of Zack and Cody", years back. The kids were describing something cool and they ascribed it as "BAD". The older people around looked confused as to why those kids would gladly indulge in something bad. Then, the hotel manager intervened by saying " Kids nowadays, bad means good." This is the kind of culture we live in today.

While people may be going with the flow and unconcerned. I feel a bit ruffled about this. And the unfortunate truth of this is more teens and youths want to be bad than good. Like I said earlier, to them, bad means cool. It is believed that if you are bad as a guy , you get more popularity , more girls etc. Also bad girls get to have more fun. And "GOOD" in itself has gone into obscurity.







What happened to calling a spade, a spade. What happened to those times when good deeds and conducts, were been praised among youths. When was the last time you heard a teenager /youth talk proudly about being a virgin? Nah! That's not in vogue again, you have got to experiment. In fact, they are ashamed to let people know they are one and can't wait to shed off their virginity.
You don't dare tell your peeps you don't drink, smoke or do drugs, you 'll just become a laugh stocking. More than ever "BAD" is gaining upper hand and the few young ones who believe in "GOOD" are too ashamed to stand up for it.

It is time we call a dog a dog and a dove a dove ( tautology intentional. lol) . Lets face it, Bad means evil , terrible, devilish, amidst a lot of other horrible meanings, so why would I want to be associated with bad!
While the media and even parents are aiding the decadence of morals, It is essential that you and I have to stand up for the "GOOD" we believe, so that others will come to the light.

I believe in saving oneself for sex till marriage

I believe that a good name is better than riches

I believe that good and God fearing guys are the ones you should date and marry. No matter what a bad boy looks like or how much he has, he not worth me.

I believe in good character and morals.

I believe that a real woman's worth is not in how she looks or dresses, but in the strength of her character and inner virtues.

I believe in Jesus. And I know when come to him , he turns you from bad to good.

What do you believe in?

MY BESTMAN 3



Hey people! How is it going? Congrats to Nigerians on a well deserved victory on the presidential polls. Nigerians came out in mass to vote. In my polling unit, I saw the aged and disabled wait for hours just to cast their vote. Nigerians are beginning to understand the meaning of democracy.

Just for laughs: My living room turned to a "situation room" as the results of the polls were been announced. I became the Returning Officer while hubs was the Coalition Officer. I called out the results as it was been announced and hubs typed out the votes accruing to the various parties. Even when my sis called, l had to tell her "Please call me back ,you are calling at a critical moment!" Lol


Back to business, So here is the part 3 of fiction I have been working if you missed the previous edition click here
Kindly let me know your thoughts on it.


Lunch with Reynolds was a wonderful affair. He and Tale dined in Royal Affair in Ikoyi. He spared no cost as he ordered the best cuisines. After lunch, he suggested that they check out the Deluxz boutique, a few blocks from the restaurant.
They got to the boutique and began window shopping. Suddenly, a beautiful pair of nude stilettos caught Tale's eyes. Tale is a sucker for nude shoes, she couldn't just take her eyes of it.
"Do you like it ?" A voice from behind said. She turned around to find Reynolds staring at her.
"He must have caught me admiring the shoes" she thought to herself.
"Yes , I was just admiring them."
" Why don't you try them on?"
" No way, I can't even afford them! "
"Just try them on Tale, don't be a party popper" he urged.
"Ok'' she finally gave in.
Tale tried on the shoes and it was a perfect fit.
Reynolds walked away as she admired the shoes .
"Tale," he called from the counter,
"I think we should get going? "
"Ok, just a minute" she said as she stooped to remove the shoes.
"You don't have to remove them, you can wear them out."
"What! That would be pilfering."
" Well," he answered "not anymore. Its yours now."
Tale eyes grew big "No Reynolds ,you didn't .... He gave her a nod with wide grin.
"Thank you ,Thannnk you, thank you! She exclaimed joyfully as she made her way to the door.
"Eh Madam," the sales attendant called out to her. "You left the shoes in which you came in, and you also forgot to collect the box for the new shoes."
*



"Gist me joor" Tanya said as she chatted with Tale on the phone.
"As I was saying Tanya, I had the best time of my life. Reynolds gave me a treat of a life time."
She chatted on about their date to Tanya.
"He must be so boxed up to give you that kind of treat o!" Tanya replied
"You can say so Tanya. Infact, I think I just caught a money bag. I don't mind that kind of man for a husband o!"
"Eh hen! But,is he a Christian?" Her friend asked.
"Well, he should be, because he told me he attends the Tabernacle of Grace."
"Oh! you mean the church in Lekki."
"Exactly."
"OK, Tale just be careful .You know you cant just marry anybody, you have to pray about it and carefully study the guy."
"Pastor Mrs Tanya! I don hear o"
"Am serious Tale....."
Tale's phone began to beep with another incoming call .
"Tanya, please I have to go now, Alvin's is calling me."
"Who?" Tanya asked
"Allllllllvin ,the guy I met in church the other day.Remember?"
"Oh! I remember"
"OK babes take care." Tale said as she ended her friend's call.
"Hello"
"Hey! Tale, its Alvin"
"Hi you ,what's up"
"Was thinking of going to the cinemas this weekend, we could go together if you don't mind?"




Church ended 10am as usual. Like every Second Sunday, Tale had to wait for the youth meeting.
The meeting proceeded as usual with Sola the president, presiding over it
"You are welcome to our monthly meeting. If you are joining us for the first time, could you please signify by raising your hand?"
Several hands went up and a loud applause filled the room.
"You are all welcome." Sola continued
"Please move to the right hand where Tale our PRO, will receive you and write down your details. We look forward to seeing more of you. God bless you."
The meeting ended after thirty minutes.
Tale put the visitors form in her bag and stood up to leave .
"Excuse me," came a voice from behind .
She turned around to see a man staring at her. He happened to be one of the newcomers to the youth group.
"Hi, my name is Uche."
"I just wanted to tell you that I liked the way you anchored the youth fiesta."
"Oh ! Thank you." she smiled
"Will see you next Sunday right?"
"Sure." she replied
"Cool. have a nice week." And he was gone.

BLOGTRIP

Hi everyone,hope you had a wonderful weekend. So I thought I 'll use something exciting to usher you into the new week.

This year, I decided to move round the blogsville and interview bloggers. So I titled it BLOGTRIP.Today, I have got here a very good blog sister and pal. I would have love to gush about but that will spoil the fun. Instead, I would let you sit back and enjoy the interview.



__Me: Could you please introduce yourself?

__Frances: Hi hi everyone!
My name is Frances Oghenerukevwe Okoro.
You aren't allowed to call me my native name except you are a "personal person" sha. *winks*


__Me: When and What made you to start blogging?

__Frances: Ok, I started blogging in September 2013. I started up because I was always disturbing my BBM contacts with the words in my head and most of them wanted me to get a blog and "free them". Lol.
I'm only kidding.
But really, I started blogging because I had all these words streaming through my head and I knew that God had put them in me for me to share with others so I basically had to start blogging or be sentenced to writing behind my school notes(which isn't a cool thing I tell you)


__Me: You recently moved your blog to a permanent domain, what inspired that decision?

__Frances: Hmm, this question. It's a long story oh but I will try to make my answer short.
While I was in Law school last year, I basically started feeling like God wanted me to take blogging/writing for Him seriously (my blog is a christian blog).
And I was so scared at first, like "what about money? Small me? Oh no!"
But it all became clear at last, I had to move to my own domain and get this writing for God business SERIOUSLY started. And that's what I'm just trying to do.

__Me: In some of your posts,I read about your weight loss journey. Why did you decide to lose weight?

__FrancesGirl:I decided to lose weight because I didn't like my Christian mother arms at all.
Like seriously, I loved myself like crazy but my arms and tummy in one of the pictures that I was snapped on my 20th birthday gave me the push to get fit.
I wasn't even up to 25 but I was looking like a mother of 3kids.
I just got tired of being unhealthy and unfit and decided to change it.

__Me: How were you able to achieve that weight loss dream?

__Frances: I basically changed the way I ate and started exercising.
I was weighing 98kg then and I didn't even know my weight till I decided to lose the weight.
It shocked me when I stepped on the scale to see that figure and I got shocked into action.
I started jogging in school then, cut out junks-soft drinks, biscuit and all, started eating more protein based foods and good carbs and I also did some detoxing with fruits to cleanse my system before I changed the foods I ate.

__Me: Would you like to share what you weighed back then and now?

__Frances: Like stated already, I weighed 98kg in 2013 when I started my weightloss journey (I must have weighed more because I had already started my detox programme before I checked my weight for the first time)

As at yesterday, Saturday March 7th, the day before I wrote these answers, I weigh 74.3kg.

__Me: Frances,you are so full of passion and visions. I feel your vibrancy and energy every time I visit your blog. How did you become that woman?

__Frances: Passion and vibrancy kwa?
Heh! I'm flattered.
But seriously now, I guess that passion flows from knowing that God has a lot for me to do on earth.
He has a purpose for me to fulfill here on earth and my greatest desire is for me to fulfill what God has set me apart to do for Him from the beginning of time.
Fulfilling God's purpose for my life is even more important than marriage to me(not that marriage isn't sweet and important), so I try as much as possible not to slack at what God has placed in my hands.
I guess another reason why I am really passionate about fulfilling visions and set goals is because I know where I am coming from.
God turned this small girl's life around and I don't want to fail Him or let Him down.
All you see in me is all God.
That's how I became this woman - all God.

__Me: One of my favorite segment on your blog is "Lessons from when I almost dated an engaged man." Why did you start that column?

__Frances: Oh, the "lessons from when I almost dated an engaged man" is a post under the segment of "Frances's love letters" on my blog.
It's a segment where I write letters based on love and relationships from the Christian angle every saturday.
I wrote "lessons from when I almost dated an engaged man" from experiences I had had with a friend who was engaged to be married to someone else.
God had practically "ordered" me out of the friendship because feelings were getting involved.
I learnt so much from that episode and I only write and share things when I feel led to do so.
The incident happened last year but I only wrote and shared my lessons on my blog this year.
I shared that post because I thought that people could indeed learn from my experience and know that God is interested and concerned about who we court/marry and He has a plan for us all maritally.

__Me:OK, enough blog questions, let's move to some lighter questions. When did you have your first crush and what happened to him?

__Frances: Hahahaha!
First crush...
I think I was 14? Or 12? Or 10?
I don't know jor.
I sha know that there was one guy that I was liking who was always carrying weights in our compound then. He never gave me face sha.
Then at 14 I think I started liking phone pals I had never met before(small pikin things, mtcheeww)

__Me: I know you love movies, what is your favorite movie and why do you like it?

__Frances: Favourite movie?
Now this is hard to say oh.
Maybe "My sister's keeper"
Or "the vow"
Or "transcendence"
Or "the giver"
Or "the colour purple"
Or "courageous"
Or "Facing the giants"

Oh well, you can tell that I don't have a favorite.
I used to like the romantic movies and autobiography movies like "biography of Margaret thatcher" but these days, I don't watch too many movies anymore and I tilt more towards the christian movies like "fireproof"
I am selective with what I watch now and I'd rather watch something what adds positively to me (with maturity comes sense I guess? :-)

But I really do love "the notebook" though.
Do you know that the husband and wife both died on the same day in each others arms in that movie? *sniff sniff*

__Me: What is your dream man like?

__Frances: Don't get me started on this, the list is longggg! Lol.
But thankfully, God has dealt with me about this list thing. You will have to read the post under Frances's love letters on my blog to find out about the lessons on "the list".Hehe
But seriously, the first thing he must be is a man that loves God.
Not a Christian for mouth, a man that places God above everything, even me.
He should be matured, not just in age, in brain too.
He should have found God's purpose for his life as we can't just be moving on a merry-go-round chase, what am I to help him with if he has no destination?
He should be hard working of course, lazy men are appalling.
It would be great if he is soft spoken as I tend to be really outspoken with strong mind set (God is working on that)
And eh, it won't hurt if he doesn't have a pot belly... God please, let him be one that takes fitness as seriously as I do. please.lol
The inner attributes are more important than the outer though, the outer ones are "jara". But God is able and will give me more than I set my human sights on.


__Me: What is your favorite outfit combo?

__Frances: Outfit combo kwa?
I'm not a fashion person oh.
Gimme jeans and top any day and I am good. Lol.
But I love gowns, I think they make a lady look elegant.
And I love it when I wear tucked in shirts in corporate pants, complete with really high heels. Now, that makes me feel fly! Lol

__Me: What is the most embarrassing moment you have ever had?

__Frances : Embarrassing moment?
I don't think I have ever said this out loud to anyone before.
When I was at boarding school(secondary school), I mistakenly oh, farted (messed) at prep class one day.
It was a loud one and so embarrassing!
I couldn't say anything at all and one wicked senior was just shouting "who did that?"
I wanted to melt in my seat!


__Me: Tell us something that blogsville doesn't know about Frances?

__Frances : What does blogsville not know about me????
I cry when I don't get what food i'm craving at the time to eat... I already wrote this in my 20things about me post on my blog.
*Thinking*
I can pinpoint anything

__Me: Thank you Frances, do you have any parting words?

__Frances: Just thank youuuuuu!
I hope I nailed the questions.
Thanks for having me on here.
Cheers babes!

There you have it people! Here is a stunning picture of Frances below;






Guys you should go hang out with Frances.Trust me, there is no dulling moment with her.

HITCHED...FINALLY!!!


There comes a time in every young woman's life (almost every woman ) when she decides to shed the skin of spinsterhood and put on that of married life .That happened to me on 19th July 2014.


I married the man I chose to love,trust ,cherish and grow old with. How we met? hmmm, that one's is a big story and of course a laughable one.
Sincerely, God and life are full of surprises as well as my new husband. I hate surprises but it is beautiful when a good surprise comes your way. Oops!Can't believe I just said that.


I know my friends are hitching to hear details of the wedding,slow down peeps, I just got married ( *tongue out). I will soon dish out the juicy details as I was directly involved in the planning.
So grateful to God for taking me through the spinsterhood journey. It wasn't easy,most especially if you are girl trying to please God. At a point, it seemed that a truly godly man was hard to find but I eventually found my best man. To my single girls, the lord will give your best man very soon.
I would have love to share all  pics now but I don't have it all yet. Here is a sneak peak of our wedding.





Cheers>>>

MY SUPER SEXY NUDE SHOES!!!

It's an over exaggeration to say I love shopping. So, it was payday and I decided to spend my shopping budget. 


Being my typical self, I had listed the items I needed to buy  as well as their prices which means i knew exactly what i wanted to buy.


I went shopping as planned and made some purchases. Then my eye caught something,It was a pair of nude wedge sandals!!! At that moment I fell in love , I began to think of how those sandals would look good on me. I was breathless at the sight of the rare beauty.I felt like I was in paradise . I began to imagine how I would rock the sandals to work,church and of course, dates. I could not wait to take my baby home!!!!  Wait a minute, do I have enough money to buy these sandals ...Bang!!!! Then I came back to reality. 
While I just got paid, I couldn't afford the sandals because it wasn't planned in my shopping budget. If I bought the sandals from my other budgets,the items on the other budgets might end up unattended to.

I continued my shopping but couldn't stop thinking about my new love. I went through my budget in my head to see if there was a way I could cut corners in my budget so as to be able to buy those shoes. My desires told me I could afford the shoes but common sense told me it was not a wise decision and besides I already had  some nude flats. But  I love those nude sandals *wails*


Before you think I am crazy ,here  three things you might not know about nude colored shoes

#1) Nude color is very sexy and mature.

#2) Nude shoes/Bags goes with any outfit except natives...hmmm,maybe  some natives but not all.

#3) Nude shoes makes your legs look longer and well defined .

Lastly, Whatever! I don't care, nude color is so hot and trending! lol


Now, I guess you have had enough of the nude shoes madness. I just couldn't help it. Did I go back to by those nude shoes . No I didn't. I reasoned that it was just a desire not a need.I was grateful I followed my sense of reason than my desires. 



My question is how easy is it to make daily  decisions between our needs and our desires? Sincerely, I still struggle with the temptation of going back to get the new shoes. I am wondering if this is natural or am I just been greedy.


PS: Frances I promiseeee, I would answer my awards question in my next post.

Love

THE GREAT COMEBACK!!!

Hmmm, the great comeback! sounds like a movie huh! Exactly !I have been working on a movie for quite a while. let me tell you  bit about it. I got this great role where I was to play a rich spoilt girl. How did I get the role? (That will be gist for another day).


In the movie ,I was to act as the love interest of a 30 something married male model . Hot ehhh! I know, it just that I don't do married men in real life.
For the movie ,I had to lose some weight and right now, I am a ravishing size 4. If you think I am anorexic ,na you sabi! Shooting the movie was one of the best experiences of my life. The movie is coming to the cinemas in July.I will giving away some free tickets to movie, if you are interested, contact me on flossy.242@gmail.com.



Gosh! I can't believe I pulled a fast on you. Roftl, movie ko ,movie ni. I acted the film inside my mind. lolzzzzzzZz. I know its not April 1st, but there's no rule that says you can't crack some ribs on blogsville.



Yes ,I have been away from blogsville for a while and I have really missed my e-friends. Lately, I have  been involved in one thing or the other and it just seems to take away all my time. While I was away, I attended a seminar in which I learnt a personal lesson.



I always like to be the best in all I do . But sometimes this makes me conceited and egoistic ( *smiles*,  I had to borrow some grammar from Lizzie). For a while I used to think that I was smarter than the others . When I get to a new place or join a new group, I like to show smart and knowledgeable I can be. (I actually don't think I am proud or am I? ) . Then,something interesting  happened. At a point, during the seminar,we were to do a presentation .Each individual did their presentation and waited for feedback for their supervisors. As the supervisor went round ,she asked questions and doled out her remarks. When she got to me,I got some criticism regarding my presentation and I felt like fainting. I felt so embarrassed and it was like everyone was making jest of me. Omg! how did I get here ,I was supposed to be smarter than everyone !!..
I was uncomfortable for the rest of the seminar because I felt all eyes were mocking me. I even considered abandoning the rest of the seminar. Thank God! I didn't.



After the seminar , I decided to get help on how to deal with criticism. I had some resource materials from circular and Christian authors.
After using these resources I was diagnosed with following symptoms:


Pride: For me to think I am smarter than everyone shows that I am proud!!! *Covers face*


Unteachable: I was found unteachable because my damaged self-esteem was more important to me than learning.


Unloving: What!! I am the nicest person  on earth. I am unloving because all my attentions were focused on me ,me and the movement of me!


Then I learnt the following antidotes to these symptoms


Accept criticism with grace: Criticism can either be good or bad. Bad ones are directed at destroying you or your self esteem,you should ignore this kind of criticism. The good ones are aimed at making you a better person. When you are criticized ,examine the area if criticism and work on becoming better in that area. This way you will learn more . In my own case, I later worked on my weak link(what I was criticized for the seminar) . Right now! I am a pro in that aspect. winks* ( No bragging)


Appreciate others: While I might be smart,I can't be a powerhouse of knowledge ,somebody knows what I don't know. Appreciating others helps you to see good in  them. This will not only  endear people to you,it will also increases your knowledge as you get to learn from other's perspective . Talking to myself :You this Tosin girl sef! What made you ever think you are smarter than others! With all your supposed smartness you don't know how to use Photoshop *smh*


Show love: Love was an antidote to my self-centeredness.  selfishness is focusing on yourself. Almost all through the seminar, I thought about me. How I should dress fabulously, how to outsmart and outshine others. Oh my! God is so good or else he would have been tired of my antics.
I forgot  about showing love and caring for others ,which is supposed to be an attribute of a Christian. A simple heartfelt hello or asking about the welfare of others could go a long way. In a seminar, where we had quite a number of people ,everyone is conscious of themselves. If I had been so friendly with people and dedicated to making them feel at ease, it will have been worth more than a million bucks.


As I look back to the seminar, I wish I had done a lot of things in a better way. I had some very good parts,infact my attitude changed towards the end of the seminar.
But like I explained earlier , I made some mistakes. I am glad I made those mistakes,because I got to learn from them.
Isn't that what life is about ?learning everyday.


So folks, invite me to a seminar and I won't ruin it.lolzzz
I do hope this post was a great comeback! *winks*


Tosin Quotes :   "When we refuse to learn from a mistake,we keep turning in the circle of that mistake"

WAR OF HAIRS!!

I watch the Trisha show often and one of her particular broadcasts really made an impression on me. I decided to bring the topic here on blogs ville so that we could discuss it .Well you guessed right,It was about the female hair.

On the show Trisha, the host, chose to discuss about natural hair and artificial hair. I know hair issues is also a big issue here in naija. There are a lot of factors varying from religious to social,health factors which determine how we wear our hair. Before I digress too much,let me continue with the show. Trisha had 2 teams to discuss this issue, one called team natural and the other called team weave. Both teams comprised two women each who wore their hair naturally and artificially respectively. I know this is getting interesting. The team members also discussed why they chose to wear their hair that way.


Team natural said they were proud of their natural hair and decided to show it off. They believed that those who wore their hair artificially,with weaves or relaxed were not proud of their God given hair.


Gorgeous Natural hair locks



Team weave said they felt more comfortable with hair extensions and weaves. One woman on team weave said she had never gone out in long time without her weave. The other lady on team weave said she feels more beautiful when she has on her hair extensions.

Loving this full length weave


Now what stunned me so much was that a black woman on team weave had  straightened her 3year old daughter's hair already!!..... now that ticked me off.

Arguments flew back and forth on hair issues.One woman on team natural said that black women relax and get hair extensions as well as weaves because they want to look like white women..(is this really true?). She also said that black women have been made to believe that their natural hair is not presentable enough to the world so they alter it to look like a white's woman hair.She argued that  the lady who straightened her 3year-old's  hair was indirectly teaching her daughter not to be proud of her natural hair.Some folks in the audience thought the natural lady was being too extreme with her views.


Straightened/Relaxed hair

Another argument for artificial hair came forward as a hair stylist projected that relaxed hair and weaves are easier to manage(I kinda agree.)
Okay! enough of the show. I really brought up this topic because I know that hair is a big deal with Nigerian women.In fact in Nigeria,your hair style kinda depicts how fashionable you are. On the extreme level,It is associated  with social status.If you are wearing brazillian, taj, peruvian hair,you are a big girl. A friend once said to me "artifical hair is normal nowadays". 

With all the modern day evolution of wigs and weaves, have we lost our appreciation for natural (God given) hair? I chose to reserve my opinion on this because I really love to hear from others.

TOOTHACHES AND RELEVANCE

Hi guys, Sorry I have been missing in action for a while. I had a 2 weeks training that really kept me occupied. I know its been more than 2 weeks,let's just say I had to settle down at work very well . Anyways, its so good to be back on blogsville.


Lately , I developed a  toothache that gives me terrible headache. I'ts so painful that I have to eat with one side of the teeth. As a result of this, I have limited myself to the kinds of food I eat. Right now I avoid almost all kinds of meat as well as foods that require much chewing . I now eat cereals,swallows (amala,wheat,semolina etc) and liquids.
Eating with one side of the teeth can be very uncomfortable and for me,it makes my food less enjoyable.


Nne Haba! Toothache is not an excuse for a bad scarf.lol



OK ,enough pity party!  Something very profound dropped in my spirit in this week.
On my way home from work, I passed by the market and my eyes ran through different foods sold in the market. The meats, nuts and fruits  were the ones that grabbed my attention( I love walnuts,apples and carrots a lot!) but unfortunately I could not buy any because of my teeth. Eating these foods is really hard for me. I have to be careful so that I don't allow the meat/nuts to touch the other side of the teeth, else, I would feel serious pain . As I mourned my dilemma, all of a sudden 1Corinthians 12 : 12-26  came alive and became real to me.

12 Just as a body, though one, has many parts, but all its many parts form one body, so it is with Christ. 13 For we were all baptized by[c] one Spirit so as to form one body—whether Jews or Gentiles, slave or free—and we were all given the one Spirit to drink. 14 Even so the body is not made up of one part but of many.
15 Now if the foot should say, “Because I am not a hand, I do not belong to the body,” it would not for that reason stop being part of the body. 16 And if the ear should say, “Because I am not an eye, I do not belong to the body,” it would not for that reason stop being part of the body. 17 If the whole body were an eye, where would the sense of hearing be? If the whole body were an ear, where would the sense of smell be? 18 But in fact God has placedthe parts in the body, every one of them, just as he wanted them to be. 19 If they were all one part, where would the body be? 20 As it is, there are many parts, but one body.
21 The eye cannot say to the hand, “I don’t need you!” And the head cannot say to the feet, “I don’t need you!” 22 On the contrary, those parts of the body that seem to be weaker are indispensable, 23 and the parts that we think are less honorable we treat with special honor. And the parts that are unpresentable are treated with special modesty, 24 while our presentable parts need no special treatment. But God has put the body together, giving greater honor to the parts that lacked it, 25 so that there should be no division in the body, but that its parts should have equal concern for each other. 26 If one part suffers, every part suffers with it; if one part is honored, every part rejoices with it. (New International Version)



I believe the above bible passage is self-explanatory.I know that toothaches aren't funny,but I would not have thought in a million years that a pained tooth could cause such fuss to the extent of causing changes in my eating plans/habit. This shows that my teeth,as small as it seems, is of utmost relevance! As I was pondering on this, I also discovered how this truth is so relevant in  our every day living.
Let's take an office as an example . The cleaners are seen as the ones with the lowest rank in some offices(not all offices). If those cleaners decide to go AWOL for three weeks,imagine what the office will look like.In the family,everyone has their own roles. If the father is absent or dead,a vacuum is left and same goes for mother. Even the children have their own unique contributions that they bring to the family ,which will be missed if the children leave the home. In church,its is so obvious that we need various offices  to ensure smooth running of things . Imagine what it will be if the sanctuary keepers weren't there to take care of the toilets..Ewwh! don't let's imagine. Or let's imagine what movement look like if the traffic wardens didn't control the movement of vehicles (Especially in a church with large congregation).


*Chuckles*


We all look different,dress differently ,have different eating abilities as well as different career preferences. Have you thoroughly checked the blogs on blogsville? If you have you have,you will discover that though we all blog, we definitely have different areas of interest.Bloggers write on a lot of subjects ranging from inspiration to food, parenting ,fashion,lifestyle,finances,homemaking,spiritual etc.
I believe God made us differently and gave us different gifts,skills and spiritual gifts so that we can learn from each other and complement each other . I call this unity in diversity.... How awesome is the wisdom of God and how profound are the depths of his wisdom.May his name be exalted forever!!!!




So just before you think you are  unimportant,think about this..... In that thing you do diligently or with that talent you have been gifted ,you can make a lot of difference in your own way. It can be something simple as showing love to others, you might not know who you are influencing. Remember, you are of utmost relevance and so is my premolar tooth.

LOVELY WEEKEND TO Y'ALL

I LOST A DREAM



I lost a dream,
and it  made me cry.
oh! what a wonderful dream,
but I never saw it happen.



I dreamt of a beautiful house,
with green meadows in its  surroundings.
Indeed a majestic house,
laced with marble stairs.



The path to the dream,I knew not
But someone said the guardian knows.
To the guardian I went,
to lead me to my desires.


Intriguing was a way to describe the guardian.
He led and I followed.
Through bumpy roads we trailed,
Shadowy lanes were our companion.


The guardian ,what a friend he was
Straight but kind,sturdy but loving
With him fears were allayed
Soon we would reach my dream.


Wait,where is the guardian going?
This can't be the way,no it can't be!
I whined and threw tantrums
One word from him ....trust me


Where is this place ?
I don't want to be here
But here you must stay...says the guardian
My world has crashed!


So dusty and cramped a place
My tears spilled out uncontrollably
This is not the house!
Alas! my dream is gone.


I am leaving..but my guardian says...wait.
His eyes are full of understanding
My heart believed his words,
and so I waited....



Turned the hut into something livable
At night,my tears ran for a lost dream.
Will I ever see my dream ?
Maybe its time for a goodbye.



Fate, they say must come to all
This is my fate
The house is not so bad
And so, I learned to love this new place.



My cows are milking
Plenty to eat and sell
Never has nature been so  beautiful
I love this place!


My chores became my joy
Each day became a pleasure
Wait! this can't be true
The guardian! Oh,the guardian!



Tears trickled down my face
Tears of joy
He was right after all
I just inherited a castle!



Who would believe this?
This hut was willed,
only to one who would patiently live there.
This is unbelievable.


I dreamt of a house,
but a castle I got.
I dreamt of marble stairs,
but I got stairs of gold!



I lost a dream,
and I really grieved for it .
But  I found a new one
A much more better dream.



From me

I hope you enjoyed the poem. It was born out of a personal experience which I had. A dream is something we hope to achieve. God is the guardian and we trust him to lead us to that dream. But most times, he does not work in ways we anticipate,he might take us through routes that are not too comfy. He might even ask us  to stay in a not too favorable place or condition. At this point we might think that our dream has died. 
But if we obey and trust him,we will soon discover that he has greater blessings in store for us.


Love

BIZARRE DATING?




I recently updated my status on bbm saying "last first date". Then my aunt pinged me and we started this conversation.

Aunt: what is that? last first date ,is there anything like that?

Me:   yes! it is when you meet a ridiculous guy for the first time and you decide its the last time you will ever see him.

Aunt: that's serious o.....I agree.

Hope you now  understand the meaning of first last date. I know you are now wondering who started this cliche? Well, my one of my blogger pals Alicia, recently posted about her own bizarre dating experience and she  asked other ladies to share their own similar experiences,which  I did .You can click this link  below to read about it.

Biko make  una no laff too much. kindly let me know what you think .

I think we girls should start a television show called the Dating police so that we can punish all crimes of dating. Maybe  men would start ensuring they treat women better on dates. Still, we thank God for all the gentlemen out there. 
A big cheers to the good  guys but the bad ones will not go unpunished .lol

Don't forget to check Alicia's blog, http://femmetotale.org.ng/. She is multi-talented blogger,her words are etched in sound wisdom and of course, she is also lots of fun.

PS: I would really love to hear from the guys too. Do you think we (girls) demand too much by insisting on courtesy from our dates?. kindly send these to the men you know so that we can get their views on this.

Enjoy your week

MODEST SWIMSUITS?

I like swimsuits a lot,even though I can't swim. I know its embarrassing but never mind. As we all know ,the popular trend for swimsuits today is the bikini,a two piece swimsuit consisting of what I call "Bra and pant". lol.




As much I like swimsuits,I am not comfortable with  wearing the bikini. To me ,its far too revealing and it looks like am in my underwear. I hardly imagine myself strutting around in one. Anyway,that's just my opinion. Before I continue , check out my preferred  swimsuit styles below.


 
 





 My other reason for not really digging bikinis is actually because  I believe in modesty. But  being  my fashionable self ,I also like something classy. So the question at hand is  how to combine  fashion with modesty? That's why I arrived at the above options.


Meanwhile, I have been thinking if there were people who also thought of instilling modesty into swim wears. So  I surfed the internet and I found some suits tailored for modesty. I just decided to include a few in this post.


 





























While I reserve my comments on the above swimsuits, I really like to hear what people think about swimsuits and modesty. Is a bikini truly modest or not? Also feel free to share your swimsuit preference and your reasons for it.



ON A LIGHTER MOOD: I never said you couldn't wear a bikini on your honeymoon or on a private getaway with husband. To me its perfectly romantic as long as its just  you and him .*winks*
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